What is it with me and getting into arguments about lesbians? The whole process of me getting kicked out of the house literally started with one, though no shade to the lesbian community at all. Today we are diving into discrimination within the LGBT scene itself, aka classic friendly fire. It all started with some internet drama involving a girl who stated she would break up with her partner if they came out as non-binary. Even if they had zero plans to medically transition and still presented femme. The reason? Because she is a lesbian and has to protect her label at all costs. Let's call it what it is - that is straight-up discrimination. When I tried to explain my perspective as a polyamorous gay guy who believes marriage is a spiritual pact and queerplatonic relationships are totally valid, I got accused of homophobia and gaslighted.
But the problem goes way deeper. When you grow up in a toxic society and constantly get beat down for being different, you start to internalize that hate. That is how internalized trans-homophobia is born. You start believing there are "good" gays and lesbians who fit into the cis-het norm, and the "bad" ones who wear flags, do makeup, and ruin your reputation. Trying to be the normal one is literal emotional self-harm. It gets to the point where privileged white cis gays promote movements like "drop the T" to exclude transgender people from the scene and treat them like they are mentally ill. They conveniently forget who was at the forefront of the Stonewall riots. You guessed it - it was trans women. Instead of fighting each other, we should be sticking together, because our experiences of being outcasts are exactly the same.
